The Cost of your Anger

The Bible says there is always a price tag to uncontrolled anger. Can you relate to any of these verses?

Proverbs 15:18: “Hot tempers cause arguments, but patience brings peace.” (TEV)

Proverbs 29:22: “People with quick tempers cause a lot of quarreling and trouble.” (TEV)

Proverbs 14:17: “People with a hot temper do foolish things; wiser people remain calm.” (TEV)

The Bible says, “The fool who provokes his family to anger and resentment will finally have nothing worthwhile left. He shall be the servant of a wiser man.” (Proverbs 11:29 TLB)

Whenever I lose my temper, I lose. You don’t make it to the top if you’re continually blowing your top. The word “danger’ is the word “anger’ with the letter “d’ in front. And anger is dangerous. You could lose everything: your reputation, your spouse, your job, your health.

A few years ago, I read about medical research on the human heart that revealed, if you reduce the hostility in your life, you can prolong your life. Mom and Dad, listen, we may get a short-term pay-off by motivating our kids through anger — they will comply out of fear — but in the long run, we’ll lose because anger always alienates. It turns people off rather than turning them on. And, instead of getting what you want, it causes people to become apathetic to your needs and angry at you.

One way to manage your anger is to come to grips with how much it is costing you.

From Rick Warren

Strong Foundation and Jewels Certificate

I bought this for Vien from Love Kids Worldwide website. It’s a Christian song.

Strong Foundation.

Strong Foundation

I love it! It’s cheap at 50 Pesos. Not bad!!!

 

I created a certificate for Vien too. It’s a Jewel Certificate. It is very lovely. I actually paid for it. Price is really not bad. I would love to frame this.

jewels certificate

How to get 5-stars in Odesk

High star ratings and scores in odesk makes a very good and impressive profile. How do you get those 5 stars?

First, when you work, work to impress. It is not all about money, but it is also your credibility. Butt kissing is a very stategic tactic but if you would, be sure that your work is outstanding and impressive.  You work online, and your boss don’t see you. So make the best online impression, appear very smart, organized, disciplined., responsible. I call this “pa-bibo” effect (acting smart-like).  You may not be the smartest kid in school but you can be the smartest contractor for your employer.

Keep communications open. With the emergence of gadgets and smart devices, there is always a way to connect. Invest in a smartphone with email capabilities. Don’t feel guilty paying 5 pesos (around $0.12) for 15-minute browsing to check your emails. The more constant and fast the communication, the more impressive you are. This ensures a 5-star rate on communications.

Be polite. ALWAYS use please, thank you, may I, and other polite terms. There’s no such thing as too much thank you’s. You would want your signature to have a “Thank you,” brefore your name so you don’t have to always type it and you will never forget.

Update always. Email your employer about updates, no matter how few or small your progress are.  Employers love being informed.

When contracts end, thank the employer and straightforwardly ask for a 5 star. It never hurts and he or she wouldn’t see your face anyway when you ask for it. Just type your request bravely and straightforward. Be polite when asking. I always say, “Thank you, it was so great working with you and your company. I learned a lot from you. I hope you give me 5 stars in odesk. It will be a very big help for me so I can easily find another job.”
Don’t use this tactic if you did not end good. But why would you not end good?

Absent

I’m absent in blogging this whole January.  I am juggling my time with so many clients.  I am a full time mommy and a full time wife.  I’ll find time soon.

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Cure for Procrastination

The Bible gives us five actions we can take to stop procrastinating.

Stop making excuses — What have you been saying you’re going to do — one of these days? Things will never settle down. You must make a choice to priorities what is important.

Start today — Not next month, next week, or tomorrow. I want you to write down three things you know God wants you to do. Choose one of those three and decide to start today.

Establish a planned schedule — If you fail to plan, you’re planning to fail. You need to designate some specific time slots each week for the things you need to do.

Face your fears — We hate to admit we have fears because we think they are a sign of weakness. But fear is a sign of humanity. Only fools are not afraid.

Focus on what you gain, not the pain — There are very few things in life that are easy. You must push through the frustration and look at the gain beyond the pain.

Don’t ask, “What do I feel like doing?” Instead ask, “What does God want me to do?”

Jesus never said life would be easy. There will be sacrifice and commitment. But there is tremendous reward when we do the things he calls us to do.

Rick Warren

Cure for Procrastination

The Bible gives us five actions we can take to stop procrastinating.

Stop making excuses — What have you been saying you’re going to do — one of these days? Things will never settle down. You must make a choice to priorities what is important.

Start today — Not next month, next week, or tomorrow. I want you to write down three things you know God wants you to do. Choose one of those three and decide to start today.

Establish a planned schedule — If you fail to plan, you’re planning to fail. You need to designate some specific time slots each week for the things you need to do.

Face your fears — We hate to admit we have fears because we think they are a sign of weakness. But fear is a sign of humanity. Only fools are not afraid.

Focus on what you gain, not the pain — There are very few things in life that are easy. You must push through the frustration and look at the gain beyond the pain.

Don’t ask, “What do I feel like doing?” Instead ask, “What does God want me to do?”

Jesus never said life would be easy. There will be sacrifice and commitment. But there is tremendous reward when we do the things he calls us to do.

Rick Warren

The Cost of Procrastination

When you procrastinate you’re saying one of two things to yourself, “It’s easier to avoid this than to face it” and that’s wrong. The other one is “It will be easier to handle this tomorrow (or later)” and that’s wrong too.

The Bible tells us that there is a cost to procrastination.

Procrastination causes problems — Procrastination takes a problem and makes it a crisis. The longer you wait to start, the harder it is to begin.

Procrastination wastes opportunities – “If you won’t plow in the cold, you won’t eat at harvest.” (Proverbs 20:4 LB) When opportunity knocks, open the door! Take the advantage while you’ve got it. If you don’t, you’ll miss it.

Procrastination hurts people — Laziness prevents us from being loving. Love requires commitment, energy, and work. A lot of people just don’t want to work at being loving; it’s easier to be lazy. Many marriages break up because one spouse — perhaps both spouses – are unwilling to make the effort necessary to save the marriage.

Prayerfully consider the price you may be paying for procrastination.

By Rick Warren

How Big Are Your Problems?

The truth is, you are the only one who can identify the size of your problems.

Problems are like icebergs.  The world can only see the abstract shaped tip, but you know that underneath the waters, it is very big (or small).

Other people will never completely understand your problems no matter how much you explain it to them.  They will only see the tip.  And sometimes, it depends what side they are looking from.  And the moment they switch sides, they see differently, and sometimes forget what’s on the other side.

People also see only according to how clear their visions are and how their brains interpret these visions.  It depends too on how close or far they are from the iceberg. What they see is a reflection of what’s inside their head.  How they interpret the abstract shaped tip is what’s going on in their minds.  A simple triangle can become an ornate christmas tree, or even a mammoth elephant.

Nevertheless, other people will always be in an assumption of what it is and how it feels, unless they get close to it, and touch it.  And yet, no matter how close they get, they will never understand because they will never feel and see what is under the waters.

Why Do I Procrastinate?

The Bible says you procrastinate for one of five reasons.

Indecision. “A double minded man is unstable in all he does.” (James 1:8 LB) Indecision causes you to postpone buying a car, choosing a college, getting married, buying new clothes, changing a job.

Perfectionism. “If you wait for perfect conditions, you’ll never get anything done!” (Ecclesiastes 11:4 LB) If you wait for things to be perfect, you’re going to wait a long time.

Fear. “The fear of man is a trap.” (Proverbs 29:25 LB) Have you been postponing going to the dentist? Or getting into marriage counseling? Ask yourself, “What am I afraid of?”

Anger. “A lazy person is as bad as someone who is destructive.” (Proverbs 18:9 GNT) Procrastination is passive resistance. I don’t want to do it because I don’t like you telling me to do what I have to do. Anger causes us to put things off.

Laziness. “Lazy people want much but get little, while the diligent are prospering.” (Proverbs 13:4 LB) One of the most popular words in America is “easy.” If it’s easy, we like it. If it’s hard, we don’t like it.

The next time you find yourself procrastinating, stop and ask yourself why. Then ask God to help you overcome it so you can move forward and do what you need to do.

By Rick Warren

Reunited Many Pounds Later

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It was an unplanned meet-up.  My bestfriend of 20 years, Charmaine, spent Christmas this year in Manila.  She currently lives in Davao with her family.  She contacted me in Facebook chat, and as soon as she told me she was here, I immediately set-up a meet with her. I even offered to pick her up wherever she is staying.  Luckily, her whole family is here in Quezon City, that picking her up was not much of a hassle.

We saw each other 6 months ago when we spent a week in Davao.  But before that meet, it was years since we last saw each other.  I say, it was “pounds” ago since we last met because we were the skinniest we ever were then.

It was so great seeing “Pader”, Charmaine’s dad.  I really call her Tito Aris, or Pader too. And Charmaine’s sister, Jocelle, is so grown up now.  She was still in high school when I last saw her.  Petit little girl then.  Now she’s so tall.  They are like family to me.  I used to spend weekends in their home in Laguna.  We look alike so much that everybody thinks we were sisters.  Sisters indeed! Even her mom thinks we look so much alike.

The little boy is Roen, Charmaine’s son. She is expecting, so baby 2 is with us too in the picture.  Roen is so cute, and very active. He and Vien got along really well.  They enjoyed playing the gift we gave to Roen.

Charmaine requested pizza for dinner so we ate at Brooklyn Pizza.  we ate an 18-inch pizza.  My hubby and Cha’s nanny is with us so finishing half the large pizza wasn’t too difficult. She took home the left over half pizza, and the spaghetti we ordered for the kids that they never ate.  We finished the buffalo wings fast.  It came free with the drinks.  We didn’t even have the chance to take a picture of it.  By the way, the rest of the photos are in Vien’s blackberry.  I will add them here later.  We had coffee at Starbucks after dinner. And we chatted some more.  Our photo above is taken at Starbucks, Tomas Morato.

I am grateful for friends like Charmaine.  We are bestfriends since we were 10 years old.  We saw each other everyday in our elementary years.  Separated ways in highschool and college. Two years after college, we lived together when we both worked in Davao.  We lived together for about two years until I came back here in Manila to settle down.

We have many happy and sad memories together.  We never fight.  I think we fought once when we were 11 years old.  But we made up again and continued our friendship.  We never fought since then.

She wanted to be a work at home mom too like me. Having a bigger family requires her full mommy/wife attention and care.  So I am looking forward to us working together online in the near future.

Cheers to a rare friendship. She is indeed my best friend.

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Vien and Roen sharing Choco Frappe at Starbucks. Sweet!!

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Roen and Vien having fun with Roen’s Christmas gift at Brooklyn Pizza.

All photos were taken December 28, 2011.